Getting divorced means that you will have a lot of lose ends to tie up. You will want to make sure that you are ready and willing to make all of the appropriate arrangements that you have to so that you can get started with your new life. You want to make sure that you are getting on with rebuilding your life and making your own life better and happier as well.
You want to have all of your bills in order when you are going through a divorce. You need to make sure that you are thinking about all the bills that you have and that you are keeping them straight. It is important to have these bills paid so that you can keep your credit and good name after the divorce. You do not want to start out your new life with bad credit because this will only make things more difficult later on.
You will want to think about the bills that you have together with your ex. These bills have to be arranged for payment. You need to figure out how you are going to handle them so that you are getting them sorted out before you go your separate ways. Sometimes these bills are sorted through before the attorney and the judge settle the divorce.
Getting through a lot of the hassle of figuring out the bills is something that you have to do. You must make sure that you are protecting yourself so that you are able to be financially ready to take on the role of supporting yourself and making your new life better. This is something that you must do for your own protection. You are on your own now and need to watch out for yourself.
There will be other issues to think about like the house payment and the car payments. You will want to discuss this with your ex partner so that you can get these things figured out and settled for when the divorce takes place. Other payments will include things like the car insurance, health insurance, life insurance and any 401K plans that you may have in place. This is something that you must be thinking about when you are going through the life changing experience of divorce.
Of course the one thing that you must think about is what you can now afford and what you cannot. You need to think about the things that you can take on and what you are gong to have to have to make ends meet once you are divorced. There are many issues that you to have to address so that you are able to survive on the income that you have coming in. If you have to make sacrifices for a little while then that is what you have to do.
You may also have to pay your attorney fees. Some times when you are in a divorce you may find it to be necessary to hire an attorney. This is the best way for some couples to get their point across a little bit easier. You will want to start make payments as soon as possible. This will allow you more time to get your debt paid off so that you are free and clear of any bills from your divorce.
Your bills are going to accumulate and you want to be aware that you can get into debt fast when you are someone that has gone through a divorce. You will want to make sure that you are careful so that you are not putting more strain on your finances that what you need to have. This is all part of rebuilding your life once you are divorced and improving your entire life and well-being.
Do you agree that divorce is biased against men?
"Enough is Enough"
I have decided enough is enough. I’m tired of seeing my fellow men, my brothers in arms, being taken advantage of again and again and again.
I’m tired of seeing them lose everything that they worked so hard to get the money to buy – like their homes and their cars.
I’m tired of seeing them lose their life savings and be forced to struggle for the rest of their lives to make child support and alimony payments that have been set way too high and that doom them to living lives of “just getting by.”
I’m so tired of this, in fact, that I’ve decided to break the lawyers’ unwritten rules and reveal the true insider secrets you need to know to win your divorce.
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Divorce makes men feel devastated...
Seb Walker (guardian.co.uk)
Divorce makes men feel devastated, confused, betrayed and even suicidal; while women are more likely to feel relieved, liberated and happy following a split, according to a report published today.
While breaking up will usually make adults feel happier than they were before, divorced men are more prone than women to find solace in drinking. They are also more likely to go back to an old flame, have casual sex or join a dating agency.
Divorced women will give greater focus than men to engaging in "positive" activities such as spending time with friends or family, or seeing a counsellor for therapy. In contrast, men will worry more about finding a new partner and throw themselves into their work as a distraction.
The survey, which questioned 3,515 divorced adults about the impact of their marital break-up, found that nearly three-quarters of those separating more than two years ago were happier now. Splitting up within the last 2 years had left 57% of divorcees happier.
But the most significant trend highlighted by the research was that women are comprehensively shown to handle divorce better than their male partners.
Recent splits had left 23% of men devastated, whereas with women the figure was lower at 20%. Of recently divorced women, 46% said they felt "liberated" at being single; only 37% of the men concurred.
Among the recent divorcees, 7% of men said they were "suicidal", as opposed to just 3% of women.
The report suggested that the figures were the result of women's "greater emotional strength", pointing to differences in coping strategies among both sexes.
Men were more likely to take time off from work (8% versus 6%) as well as being more likely to be unable to work as well as usual (13% versus 10%). More women will spend more of their time with friends (51% versus 38%), while men are more likely to turn to alcohol (33% to 23%) or casual sex (23% versus 12%).
Despite going through greater inner turmoil as the result of a divorce, men are actually more likely than women to remarry first. None of the women respondents had remarried within the first 2 years of a break-up, but 4% of the men had.
Two or more years later, 15% of the men had remarried; for women the figure was just 5%. More of the women were just not interested in a new relationship, preferring to cohabit or just date instead.
The biggest fear among both sexes after a divorce was whether they would have enough to live on, followed by concern about the impact the split might have on their children.
But the most striking aspect of the research, commissioned by Yorkshire Building Society to help design better mortgage products for divorcees, was that men were shown to suffer more emotional trauma than women following a marital break-up.
More than two years after a divorce, 41% of men were still sad about the failure of their marriage; for women the figure was only 33%.
"The differences between men and women's emotional experience of divorce is startling; women simply appear to be stronger than men throughout a break-up and afterwards," said Rachel Court, head of mortgages at Yorkshire Building Society.
A divorced fathers journey...
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STILL A DAD: THE DIVORCED FATHER'S JOURNEY by Serge Prengel (Mission Creative Energy, NY, 1999). "Even when there is no physical violence, the adversarial system fosters a climate of all-out war in which the end justifies the means." In the opinion of this men's advocacy group, if you don't get anything else, take this statement home with you. It is something that almost everyone familiar with divorce in America has come to know, but now it's official. You've read it from an expert and an advocate for change. But, Prengel's book is not an angry one. It makes good reading for both men and women. It focuses on one man's journey through the divorce process and into maturity as a father and human being. It is a, "must read", for those interested in the human experience.
STILL A DAD: THE DIVORCED FATHER'S JOURNEY by Serge Prengel (Mission Creative Energy, NY, 1999). "Even when there is no physical violence, the adversarial system fosters a climate of all-out war in which the end justifies the means." In the opinion of this men's advocacy group, if you don't get anything else, take this statement home with you. It is something that almost everyone familiar with divorce in America has come to know, but now it's official. You've read it from an expert and an advocate for change. But, Prengel's book is not an angry one. It makes good reading for both men and women. It focuses on one man's journey through the divorce process and into maturity as a father and human being. It is a, "must read", for those interested in the human experience.
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